Most people have a phobia of something like spiders, heights or enclosed spaces. I personally have a fear of bees, I am highly allergic and very afraid of getting stung (they also look kind of creepy). Often, fear creeps in when you encounter the thing that scares you most, you get a sinking feeling in your stomach. Time feels like it’s stopped, you’re thrown into utter despair and the panic kicks in.
Although, fear is natural it can be modified to our advantage and even overcome. For example, just because I’ am afraid of bees doesn’t mean I won’t go outside. I still enjoy the outdoors and live life to the fullest despite my fear. I mean of course, if a bee happens to come my way I might freak out, but I won’t let it stop me from doing the things I enjoy. Unfortunately, not everyone looks at it that way, many people allow fear to take over and control their lives. However, the fact of the matter is that these fears are just mental illusion we create ourselves that can be shattered.
Here are three common ‘so called fears’ that hold people back from success:
1. Fear of failure
The greatest threat to being successful is being afraid of failing. Many times, we won’t try something because we think we won’t do well at it. Felling like this is normal human nature, we want to experience something new, but when there is a high risk involved we tend to be too afraid to try it. However, what many fail to notice it that failure is actually the key to success.
Think of someone you admire for their talent. Maybe you are thinking of a basketball player or famous musician. Now did you know that they all failed? Yes, before becoming famous they all failed at one point or another. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team, J. K. Rowling was rejected by 12 different publishers and Oprah Winfrey lost her job while being told she was unfit for T.V. If you aren’t willing to try something and fail then you’re not willing to succeed. Failing is a part of reaching success, it allows you to learn and molds you into a stronger person. If you truly want to succeed you must try, learn and try again until you get what you want.
2. Fearing commitment
Capturing your dreams is no easy task, it takes a lot of time and work. A common fear people have is dedicating themselves to working hard and spending the effort. They would rather leave things as they are because it’s simpler than chasing their dreams. They are simply afraid of giving it their all every day because they know that tings don’t get easier even when they do become successful. The simple truth however is that it is just an excuse. If you’re working toward your dream then will it be work at all? It is true that it may not be easy, but nothing is, so don’t be afraid to throw yourself into it. Once you start, you won’t look back and this fear will seem like a joke.
3. Being afraid of people
Social pressure impacts our decisions more than we would like to think. One thing that will hold you back is being afraid of what people may think of you. Chasing your dreams is not easy; it will take up a lot of time and will seem ridiculous to some. Your friends and family might not see what you’re doing as valuable. However, think about how great it would be to prove them wrong, to show them that you can do it and that your dreams are not a waste of time. Once they see you are serious about your dreams, they will see the value in what you are trying to accomplish and start encouraging you.
Remember, fear is natural and we all experience it. In some cases it’s even healthy because it keeps us in check by allowing us to rethink our actions before we take them. However, fear is only an illusion we let ourselves believe. Through the right mindset and self-confidence you can break through this fear and achieve your dreams.
What fears do you have? How do they hold you back?
Do you have the same fears as mentioned? How have you overcome them?